Sunday, 10 January 2016

"What does a person with a mental illness look like"

"What does a person with a mental illness look like" Sounds weird doesn't it. When does "Looks" come into having a mental illness. Why does everything have to revolve around on "looks".

Me and lots of people I know have been in situations were people didn't believe that we had mental illness because of what we look like. I find that horrendous. What makes it even worse that some of it came from family members.

10 years ago since I presented with symptoms of mental illness and half of that people haven't believed that I was "ill" I find it such a shame that I was told that because I didn't look ill I wasn't ill and was making it all up. Even though I know what I was feeling was very real. It definitely stopped me going to get help because if people I knew In my personal life didn't believe me then professionals wouldn't either. It really tainted my thought process of "What does a person look like with a mental illness" And till this day I find it really scary to go to a Doctor's because they might say I'm not ill just because I wear makeup and dress smart. It's really damaging and has hindered the help I could of gotten.

Some people might think this is stupid. But if you are told and told that, its going to be in your thought process. And every time that I pluck the courage up to ring a doctors appt  its always such a worrying time till the times comes for me to go in the room. I always think the worst. I even contemplate weather I should not wear makeup so I can just look natural (Rough) and they might believe me.

Recently I've started a new thought process and much more healthier approach even though I'm still adapting to it. Wearing makeup and dressing smart doesn't mean anything. My problems are in my brain not on the outside. I don't need to look "ill" to prove that I'm not well. Every time I say it aloud the more I start to believe it.

I wear makeup do my hair and like to dress smart but doesn't mean I don't suffer daily from mental illness. It's just who I am and I'm not going to change just to make people believe that I am ill. If they don't believe then that's up to them. All that matters is that the correct people believe me.

If anyone has told you don't look "ill" enough to be suffering please don't believe them. You know what you are going through and only you know that. Others like to put there un healthy in put in. All it does is damage the thought process even more.

Asking for help is one of the biggest things you can do regarding the recovery process. It's also one of the hardest things you can do. It's took me along time to accept that what people were saying was lies and it took all my strength to start getting over that toxic thought process. It's helped having so much support around me and believing in me.

The point of this post is. Mental illness doesn't have a look. Old young or middle aged. You can be the most successful person or you can just be just starting out, Mental illness doesn't take any prisoners and affects anyone. Mental illness doesn't have a look.

Mental illness is Mental illness.



  1. Well done on opening out about this. I've seen on twitter you've started a chat and it's doing well. It's one of those things where you can't see something physically wrong so it's hard to explain and talk about it cause it's not seen but it's how you feel and how you think. I'm so happy you've the confidence to blog about this. I look forward to more posts xx

  2. Love this post Amy. I agree! I suffer badly with anxiety and because I "do myself up" most days, when I try and tell people I'm feeling a bit anxious, half the time I wonder if they actually believe me :(

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  3. Thank you so much for writing this. I remember when I was first diagnosed with depression aged 14, a close family member just laughed it off and ever since it's made me reluctant to share how I feel with people in real life.
    Such a shame that the "if you don't look ill, you aren't ill" mentality still stands with some people! x

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